عَجَبًا لأَمْرِ الْمُؤْمِنِ إِنَّ أَمْرَهُ كُلَّهُ خَيْرٌ وَلَيْسَ ذَاكَ لأَحَدٍ إِلاَّ لِلْمُؤْمِنِ إِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ سَرَّاءُ شَكَرَ فَكَانَ خَيْرًا لَهُ وَإِنْ أَصَابَتْهُ ضَرَّاءُ صَبَرَ فَكَانَ خَيْرًا لَهُ
How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for all of it is good, and that is for no one but the believer. If something good happens to him, he is thankful, and that is good for him. If something bad happens to him, he is patient, and that is good for him.
اتَّقِي اللَّهَ وَاصْبِرِي ... إِنَّمَا الصَّبْرُ عِنْدَ الصَّدْمَةِ الأُولَى
(The Prophet ﷺ passed a woman weeping at a grave and said:) Fear Allah and be patient. ... (When she came to him later, he said:) Patience is at the first blow.
وَمَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْ يُعِفَّهُ اللَّهُ، وَمَنْ يَسْتَغْنِ يُغْنِهِ اللَّهُ، وَمَنْ يَتَصَبَّرْ يُصَبِّرْهُ اللَّهُ، وَمَا أُعْطِيَ أَحَدٌ عَطَاءً خَيْرًا وَأَوْسَعَ مِنَ الصَّبْرِ
Whoever tries to keep from asking, Allah will keep him from it. Whoever seeks to be free of need, Allah will make him free of need. Whoever tries to be patient, Allah will make him patient. And no one has been given a gift better and greater than patience.
مَا يُصِيبُ الْمُسْلِمَ مِنْ نَصَبٍ وَلاَ وَصَبٍ وَلاَ هَمٍّ وَلاَ حُزْنٍ وَلاَ أَذًى وَلاَ غَمٍّ حَتَّى الشَّوْكَةِ يُشَاكُهَا، إِلاَّ كَفَّرَ اللَّهُ بِهَا مِنْ خَطَايَاهُ
No tiredness, illness, worry, sadness, harm or grief befalls a Muslim, not even a thorn that pricks him, except that Allah wipes out some of his sins by it.
إِنَّ عِظَمَ الْجَزَاءِ مَعَ عِظَمِ الْبَلاَءِ وَإِنَّ اللَّهَ إِذَا أَحَبَّ قَوْمًا ابْتَلاَهُمْ فَمَنْ رَضِيَ فَلَهُ الرِّضَا وَمَنْ سَخِطَ فَلَهُ السَّخَطُ
The size of the reward is with the size of the trial. When Allah loves a people, He tests them. Whoever accepts it has Allah's pleasure, and whoever is angry has His anger.
الأَنْبِيَاءُ ثُمَّ الأَمْثَلُ فَالأَمْثَلُ فَيُبْتَلَى الرَّجُلُ عَلَى حَسَبِ دِينِهِ فَإِنْ كَانَ دِينُهُ صُلْبًا اشْتَدَّ بَلاَؤُهُ وَإِنْ كَانَ فِي دِينِهِ رِقَّةٌ ابْتُلِيَ عَلَى حَسَبِ دِينِهِ فَمَا يَبْرَحُ الْبَلاَءُ بِالْعَبْدِ حَتَّى يَتْرُكَهُ يَمْشِي عَلَى الأَرْضِ مَا عَلَيْهِ خَطِيئَةٌ
(He was asked who are tested most severely. He said:) The prophets, then the next best, then the next best. A man is tested according to his religion. If his religion is firm, his trial is severe, and if his religion is weak, he is tested according to it. Trials keep coming to a servant until they leave him walking on the earth with no sin on him.
مَنْ يُرِدِ اللَّهُ بِهِ خَيْرًا يُصِبْ مِنْهُ
When Allah wants good for someone, He afflicts him with trials.
مَا مِنْ عَبْدٍ تُصِيبُهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَيَقُولُ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَأَخْلِفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا إِلاَّ أَجَرَهُ اللَّهُ فِي مُصِيبَتِهِ وَأَخْلَفَ لَهُ خَيْرًا مِنْهَا
There is no servant who is struck by a calamity and says: Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un, Allahumma'jurni fi musibati wa akhlif li khayran minha (We belong to Allah and to Him we return. O Allah, reward me in my calamity and give me something better in its place), except that Allah rewards him in his calamity and gives him something better in its place.
Umm Salamah said this when her husband Abu Salamah died, and Allah gave her the Prophet ﷺ as a husband. More on the phrase: Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un.
إِنَّ اللَّهَ قَالَ إِذَا ابْتَلَيْتُ عَبْدِي بِحَبِيبَتَيْهِ فَصَبَرَ عَوَّضْتُهُ مِنْهُمَا الْجَنَّةَ
Allah said: When I test My servant through his two beloved ones and he is patient, I give him Paradise in place of them.
His two beloved ones are his eyes.
إِنْ شِئْتِ صَبَرْتِ وَلَكِ الْجَنَّةُ وَإِنْ شِئْتِ دَعَوْتُ اللَّهَ أَنْ يُعَافِيَكِ
(A woman who had seizures asked him to pray for her. He said:) If you wish, be patient and you will have Paradise, or if you wish, I will pray to Allah to cure you. (She chose patience and asked him only to pray that she would not become uncovered, and he did.)
إِذَا مَاتَ وَلَدُ الْعَبْدِ قَالَ اللَّهُ لِمَلاَئِكَتِهِ قَبَضْتُمْ وَلَدَ عَبْدِي، فَيَقُولُونَ نَعَمْ، فَيَقُولُ قَبَضْتُمْ ثَمَرَةَ فُؤَادِهِ، فَيَقُولُونَ نَعَمْ، فَيَقُولُ مَاذَا قَالَ عَبْدِي فَيَقُولُونَ حَمِدَكَ وَاسْتَرْجَعَ، فَيَقُولُ اللَّهُ ابْنُوا لِعَبْدِي بَيْتًا فِي الْجَنَّةِ وَسَمُّوهُ بَيْتَ الْحَمْدِ
When a servant's child dies, Allah says to His angels: Have you taken the child of My servant? They say: Yes. He says: Have you taken the fruit of his heart? They say: Yes. He says: What did My servant say? They say: He praised You and said: we belong to Allah and to Him we return. Allah says: Build a house for My servant in Paradise, and call it the House of Praise.
لَيْسَ الشَّدِيدُ بِالصُّرَعَةِ، إِنَّمَا الشَّدِيدُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ
The strong man is not the one who wrestles others down. The strong man is the one who controls himself when he is angry.
لاَ يَتَمَنَّيَنَّ أَحَدُكُمُ الْمَوْتَ مِنْ ضُرٍّ أَصَابَهُ، فَإِنْ كَانَ لاَ بُدَّ فَاعِلاً فَلْيَقُلِ اللَّهُمَّ أَحْيِنِي مَا كَانَتِ الْحَيَاةُ خَيْرًا لِي، وَتَوَفَّنِي إِذَا كَانَتِ الْوَفَاةُ خَيْرًا لِي
None of you should wish for death because of a harm that has befallen him. If he must, let him say: O Allah, keep me alive as long as life is better for me, and take me when death is better for me.